Care for the Caretaker
Aug 26, 2015
- Be gentle with yourself.
- Remind yourself that you are an enabler not a magician. We cannot change everyone else … we can only change how we relate to them.
- Find a hermit spot. Schedule “withdrawal” periods during the week … limit interruptions. Use it to regenerate.
- Give support, encouragement and praise to peers and to coordinator/leaders. Learn to accept it in return.
- In the light of all the pain we see, we are bound to feel helpless at times. Admit it without shame.
- Caring and being there are sometimes more important than doing.
- Learn to recognize the difference between complaining that relieves and complaining that reinforces negative stress.
- On the way home, focus on a good thing that occurred during the day.
- Be a resource to yourself! Get creative – try new approaches.
- Use a buddy system as a source of support, assurance and re-direction.
- Avoid “shop talk” when socializing with colleagues.
- Say, “I choose” rather than “I should”, “I ought to” or “have to.”
- If you never say no … what is your “yes” worth?
- Aloofness and indifference are far more harmful than admitting an inability to do more.
- Laugh, play.